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older woman scared behind steering wheel.

Afraid to Drive

I am afraid to drive at age 80.

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Repression

What is the difference between depression and manic depression?

shy man avoiding interaction with two girls

Dating Failure

Why do I never get a second date?

man Online romance throwing kiss to computer screen

Affair With Friend

How do I deal with my husband's emotional internet affair?

Crying Sad Boy being comforted by his dad father

Abandoned Family

Will my wife's abandoning my son and me effect his school performance?

girl forced to give car keys to mom

Irresponsible Daughter

Am I enabling my irresponsible daughter by protecting her from her every mistake?

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Learning From Experience

How to learn to learn from experience - A short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney

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Speaking Up

How to take the first steps to defend your ideas - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser.

man trying to be romantic to uninterested girl

Differences

My girlfriend is not at all as intimate as I am.

man looking at woman who is not his girlfriend

Commitment

My boyfriend can't stop being close friends with his ex.

sad girl crying in bed

Controlling Mom

I wake up crying from my dreams about my abusive controling mom.

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Money as Virtuous

Money: The Root of all Evil or The Root of Human Flourishing?

businessman having hard time solving a problem

Career vs Mental Health

What problems might I encounter going back to work with schizoaffective disorder?

mom scolds spoiled daughter

Family Dynamics

My son is good but my spoiled daughter favors my husband over me.

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Emotional Repression

I am trying to conquer my emotional repression by being over emotional.

frustrated woman in bed with man reading paper

Temptation

What is an affair, and why are they so tempting? A short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler

angry woman yells at man

Anger

Why does my ex continue to hate and torment me?

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Divorce, Should I?

Should I stay with a husband who has both good and bad points?

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Honesty and Communication

Everyone lies, so why does my partner object to my lying?

 Nervous man in formal wear looking at businessman writing on clipboard during job interview

Schizoaffective disorder

I can't get a job due to my past mental health issues.

speeding car

Speeding Laws

I like to drive very fast.

Dad tickling child on chest

Inappropriate Behavior

My husband uses sexual slang around our young kids and pinches them inappropriately

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Feelings vs Thinking

Making healthy decisions based on analyzed vs. unanalyzed emotions - a short interview with Dr. Steve Orma.

adhd text

Attention Deficit Disorder and Work

My Attention Deficit Disorder is effecting my job performance.

hair pulling frustrated angry woman

Anger With Family

I have a problem controlling my anger.

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Death Pre-Occupation

My young dad is pre-occupied with death and obituaries.

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Balanced Life

Finding a balance between work, romance, ad all parts of your life - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

angry child clenches fists

Sibling Rivalry

Five year old hits and has anger control problems.

shy guy avoids woman's kisses

Commitment - Fear of

I am afraid of long term romantic relationships

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Anxious About Everything

I am a "chain worrier", moving from one worry to another, and can't stop.

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Activism

How to engage in effective intellectual activism - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

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Commitment

After 25 years of marriage I want to have an affair.

woman clasping her head in emotional turmoil

Miscarriage

Why is my miscarriage causing my emotions to yo-yo up and down?

woman deciding between photos of men

Respect

Why do I long for my past boyfriend rather than my current one?

guilty looking man buying expensive car spending money

Money and Happiness

Why do so many people feel guilty spending their hard earned money on themselves? A short interview with Dr. Tara Smith

Jail for criminals

Doubtful Romance

Is my boyfriend a pedophile?

woman detached disinterested passive unemotional with therapist

Emotions, Causes of

What could be some causes for my depression?

nervous self doubt uncertain shy teen girl

Self-Esteem

My great bright girlfriend has low self-esteem.

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Borderline Personality Disorder

I'm depressed and try to hurt myself.

man crying sad tears with handkerchief after arguing romance

Grief and Music

I fear that my bad romance will ruin the music I love.

woman with no appetite forced to eat dinner

Selfish?

My husband says that if I really loved him, I would eat what he cooks more often.

quilty woman shopper

Guilt - Unearned

Do you suffer from "unearned guilt" syndrome?

suspicious woman and puzzled man

Betrayed?

Why did my friend turn on me after I helped her repair her marriage?

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Infidelity

How do I cope with the discovery that my wife loves someone else?

a wierd man sticks forks in his ears

Habits

Why do I habitually do strange things?

Man cries as woman walks away

Dating Reluctance

My son was romantically hurt and won't date anymore.

Lonely man walks away from a crowd

Anti-Social

My husband is increasingly anti-social.

Abusive man hitting woman

Forgiveness

Should I forgive my grandfather and my family for abusing me?

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Goal Setting

How to control your mind so you can reach your goals - a short interview with presenter Jean Moroney.

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Dating After Divorce

How long should I wait to date after breaking up with my child's mom?

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Undecided

My indecisive boyfriend has turned my world upside down.

shy little girl hiding behing mother's skirt

Visitation (Parental)

Should I force my shy very young daughter to visit unsupervised with a dad she never met?

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Courage and Integrity

Building Courage and Integrity by speaking up for your rational values - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

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Trust

I'm having trust issues in my romantic relationship.

emotionless man

Repressed Boyfriend

Should I keep dating a guy who is emotionally closed?

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Evil Spirits

My fun boyfriend has a big problem - he thinks he is controlled by evil energy ghosts.

Father helping son hold baseball bat

Kids and Sports

Tips for helping your kids (and yourself) enjoy sports and learn life skills - a short interview with Dr. Judy Vanraalte.

very angry woman screaming at man who is looking away.

Jealousy

I've ruined five marriages due to my demonic jealousy.

frustrated man in bed next to upset woman

Impotency

My wife demands we have a child I can't produce.

woman can't decide among choices of products on shelves

Decisions

My sister-in-law can't deal with changes in her routine or make decisions.

angry grandmother about to hit with frying pan

Stress Management

Stress Management: Coping with stress overload - a short interview with Dr. Steve Orma.

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Nightmares

What is causing my nightmares?

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Emotionally Distanced Dad

Why does my step daughter's abusive dad never call her by her name?

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Generosity

Should I toss my useless adult son out of my house?

Happy father reading to happy son

Managing Behavoir

Three simple child management skills - a short interview with teacher Cornelia Lockitch

puzzled man scratching head

Communication Concerns

My wife confessed that she thinks I am overbearing and lack ambition.

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Intimacy Disinterest

My girlfriend lost interest in the romantic part of our relationship.

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Mental Block

It takes me hours to express what should take seconds.

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Meditation

What are your thoughts about meditation?

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Values and Happiness

My wife has a life long depression about everything.

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Manic Depression

What is the difference between depression and manic depression?

sad woman looking at photo of deceased husband

Grief

Is terrible sadness normal after my perfect husband of 20 years died?

happy middle aged couple in love

Intimacy Tips

Preserve your romantic intimacy by using these communication tips, a short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler

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Infidelity

I think my wife is having an affair.

Angry menacing man in hood

Grief

I can't deal with the death of my violent brother whom I loved and hated.

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Age Gap Romance

My sister is in love with a questionable man 20 years older.

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Divorce and Justice

I gave up my career for a man who wants a divorce.

two happy boys jumping on a bed

Communicating With Kids

I often lose it with mythree teenagers.

teen boy chin in hands depressed

Abandoned by Mom

How will my son's schooling be effected by being abandoned by his mother?

angry woman yelling at clueless man

Anger-Dealing With

How to deal with stress from when my handicapped wife unjustly attacks me.

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Time Management

How to manage your time well - a short interview with Seminar Presenter Jean Moroney

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Engagement Fraud

My fiance of six years keeps delaying a wedding.

man sneaks attention with a woman behind wife's back

Hard Decisions

My boyfriend can't stop being friends with his ex.

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Repressed all Emotions

I am repressed and can't seem to make lasting friendships.

bored sleepy businessman at computer

Suicide

I hate my boring life enough to end it.

surprised woman viewing computer screen

Porn vs. Me

Why does my boyfriend use porn when he has me?

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Family Dynamics

My husband favors my daughter over me.

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Romance Tips

How to choose a romantic partner.

dad avoiding and ignoring his kid

Controlling Husband

I cant cope with a husband who has a 1950's attitude about parenting and housework.

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Abandoned Mom

My kids shun me due to the influence of my con-man ex husband.

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Coworker Issues

My coworker's paranoia causes problems for everyone.

man and women upset about their differences and have their backs turned to each other

Sexually Mismatched

Newly married couple is romantically mismatched.

proud successful couple

Happiness and Money

Can money buy happiness? A short interview with Dr. Tara Smith

emotionless man

Values - The Big Four

People are put off by my lack of emotion.

sad childless woman

Children vs Romance

My boyfriend wants kids but I can't physically have any.

confused puzzled woman

Age Difference in Romance

I can't think clearly about my new romance due to the stress from my divorce.

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Sacrificed my Job

I gave up my great job because my husband insisted his job was more important.

depressed man on crutches

Depression from Illness

I am depressed from the limits of my Cerebral Palsy.

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Cyber Stalking

My internet romance turned into bizarre stalking.

sexually frustrated man in bed with wife

Sex and Pain

My medical pain from sex is destroying my marriage.

proud man in new car

"Unearned Guilt" Syndrome

Do you suffer from "Unearned Guilt" Syndrome? - A short interview with Dr. Steve Orma

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Lost Love

Should I stay with my unfaithful wife only for the sake of my kids?

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Anger

(starts at 6m 40s) My new anger is getting out of hand.

angry husband and wife and kids

Anger

Why do I hate my family?

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Arranged Marriage

I am attracted to a woman of higher status than myself.

young man hooked on playing video games

Self-Isolation

Teenage son retreats from life into video games at the expense of his parents relationship.

depressed man walking alone at the beach

Purpose and Productivity

My life has gone down the tubes after I quit my job voluntarily.

man reading paper ignoring his wife

Sexless

(starts at 6m 13s) My husband no longer has a romantic bone in his body.

woman dreaming of a man she likes

Doubting my Choice

I am engaged but have feelings for another man.

man and woman flirting

Infidelity

Six ways I processed my husband's infidelity.

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Clingy Ex.

My husband's ex won't let go after 20 years.

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Faked Love

I do not find my nice husband attractive.

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Older Men

I love a man 23 years my senior.

dangerous speeding car

Dog Hatred

I love animals but why do I hope my husband's dog gets hit by a car?

withdrawn angry man

Hateful Son

Why does my 21 year old angry son hate me?

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Trust and Commitment

Why did my married boyfriend of 30 years give me a ring?

girl sitting at school desk daydreaming about boyfriend

Romance vs. School

Should I give up school for a relationship with a wonderful guy?

man reads paper in bed next to frustrated woman

Intimacy Obstacles

Some obstacles to sexual satisfaction, and some cures - a short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler

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Drug Recovery

How can I help my friend who has turned to drugs?

angry man points finger at meek woman

Abusive ex.

My ex husband psychologically abuses me.

angry jealous woman yells at man.

Jealousy

How can I deal with my jealousy?

emotionless woman bored at work

Perseverance

I always want to quit when I try new ventures.

man attending to old dog

Trust

My fiancé loves animals because he doesn't trust people.

two happy smiling boys playing video games

Video Games

All my kids want to do is watch TV and play video games.

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Communication

I shut down when others talk about their problems.

perfectionist man cutting grass with scissors

Perfectionism

Are you a perfectionist? What is this? Is this good or bad? A short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

angry girl with fingers in ears

Anger

I'm twelve and get very angry over small things.

two angry boys with folded arms

Child Abuse - Signs of

How can I help my abused grandkids?

sad man all alone

Loneliness

I can't make any friends after my wife died.

nervous woman being interviewed for a job

Job Search

How to deal with job interview questions after my divorce and bankruptcy

Mom angry shouting and ignored by frusrtated unhappy daughter

Abusing the Abuser

My granddaughter severly abuses her abusive parents.

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Detachment

My husband regularly feels like he goes into a different world.

depressed sad lonely woman

Depression

My depression is ruining my romance.

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Massage

How massage can help you learn more about your partner and enhance your relationship - a short interview with Counselor Gretchen Mason

Abusive Aggressive man screaming at shy woman

Shyness

How to overcome my shyness and escape an abusive relationship.

angry toddler girl in car seat

Angry Child

My three year old has anger problems.

child girl in bed having nightmare scared

Scary Movies

I am haunted by a movie I saw as a kid.

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Parents and my Ex.

My parents and my ex. husband seem like they gang up against me.

sad man sitting on bed next to sleeping woman

Impotence

My wife thinks my inability to "perform" is because I don't like her any more.

shy unpopular guy at party with girls in background

Dating Nervousness

How can I better approach women?

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Art

(starts at 8m 6s) What I (Dr. Kenner) gain from art. (starts at 8m 6s)

Stern looking mom and dad

Anxious and Insecure

(Starts at 5m 48s) My parents' strictness makes me anxious and uncontrollably nervous. (Starts at 5m 48s)

Laughing boy points finger at sad boy

Teased

I have always been teased as a kid by my family and school mates.

text infidelity

Infidelity - Causes

Some causes of infidelity - a short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler

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Dishonest Girlfriend

My girlfriend told a major lie.

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Controlling Wife

How can I deal with my controlling wife?

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Unwed Dad

I worry if my obese girlfriend is pregnant.

Man walking alone

Self-Isolation

Since my wife died, I am scared of most everything and have avoided others.

Mom being physically abusive to son

Recovering From Abuse

How can I better face the problems of my abusive childhood?

Mom trying to get daughters attention

Withdrawn and Angry

My angry teenage daughter doesn't talk or smile with adults.

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Anger

Why do certain common sounds make me angry?

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First Child

I'm crushed that I won't be able to give my fiance his first child.

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Controlling Co-Worker

My supervisor refuses to deal with my controlling busybody co-worker.

angry man pounding against wall

Anger

I need help dealing with my anger.

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Sadness

Why do I get sad every time I talk with my wonderful dad?

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Repression

I do not handle disagreements with my boyfriend well.

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Justice

My family shuns me because I identified a family thief.

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Anxiety

(begins 4m41s) I'm so anxious in public that my legs shake. (begins 4m41s)

lonely mam walking away from some women

Divorced and Looking

I'm newly divorced, want to meet women, but are unsure.

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Infidelity? Repairs.

How do you rebuild your relationship if you discover your partner had an affair? A short interview with Dr. Tiffani Kisler.

angry controlling wife points finger at frustrated husband

Divorce - Should I?

My wife is mentally and physically abusive.

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Self-Pleasure

(starts at 5m 44s) Young adult asks if he is over-sexed (starts at 5m 44s)

angry girl avoids mother

Creepy Dreams

17 Year old girl is angry at and fearful of adults.

aggressive woman flirts with uninterested man

Mental Infidelity

A married woman has super hots for a married man.

abused woman holding out hand to stop aggressive man

Dating After Divorce

How can I want to date again after leaving an abusive relationship?

young boy and girl playing like they are boyfriend and girlfriend

Children Dating

Is 10 years old too young for my daughter to have a "boyfriend"?

sad lonely woman crouched in a dark corner

Depression and Guilt

This girl's depression is due to her swimming in unearned guilt.

smilimg old man in wheelchair with friendly nurse

Alzheimer's 

A second opinion showed my husband's Alzheimer's diagnosis was wrong.

Policeman administering a drunk driver test

Divorce- When to

Should I get a divorce after wife's third DWI?

obese man on couch with tv remote control

Why Overeat?

What are the psychological causes of overeating?

shy man and woman sitting on a couch

Anxious About Dating

Overcoming the social anxiety of dating - a short interview with Dr. Steve Orma.

scared woman hiding under bed sheets

Nightmares

My friend has gruesome nightmares about his druggy girlfriend.

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No Happiness

Why haven't I ever been happy?

man shrugging as if he can't decide

Finding a Career

I can't decide on a career.

older woman is angry at puzzled husband

Resolving Conflict

I have problems resolving conflicts with my spouse.

sad girl hurts herself by cutting her arm

Child Anger

Daughter of ex alcoholic hurts herself.

Older Brother helps Little Brother with homework

Big Brother

I'm an only child and crave to have an older brother.

shocked surprised astonished angry woman staring at computer porn

Porn vs. Romance

How can I save my marriage after my wife discovered my porn addiction.

desperate girl crying in bed

Suicide, Teenage

I need to help my suicidal friend get over some rough times.

obese person sitting at table

Divorce, How to

How to back out of a marriage with an obese wife.

lonely man on dock at lake

Romantic Breakup

I can't deal with an unexpected romantic breakup.

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Alcoholic Husband

My husband is wonderful but drinks 2 large bottles of vodka a day and hides it.

angry woman and man w folded arms

Apologies

My husband won't apologize when he unintentionally hurts my feelings.

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Heart vs Brain

Thinking and feelings - allies not enemies - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

angry woman hitting young son

Bossy Wife

How can I deal with a wife who is an authoritarian parent?

sad man with flowers alone at dinner table

Romantic Reconciliation

How do I get back my girlfriend who broke up with me?

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The Gay Closet

I just got exposed to HIV from a gay encounter.

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Infidelity Damage Control

Controlling the damage when one partner has an affair - a short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler.

two girls not speaking to each other

Repairing a Friendship

My best friend thinks I am abandoning her if I find more frineds.

blindfolded man and woman on a dinner date

Blind Dates

(Starts at 6m 58s) Why you might consider blind dates. (Starts at 6m 58s)

man and woman fighting for custody of puzzled boy

Dishonest Divorcé

My abusive ex spoils and manipulates my son to dislike me.

girl sitting across from therapist

Sexual Abuse

How can I discover if I was sexually abused at age 3?

forgetful memory teenage girl with puzzled look

Memory Loss

I am only 16 but am afraid I am losing my memory.

Shocked kid reading pornography

Porn Discovery

My kids found porn on my husband's phone.

sick woman nausea vomit at toilet

Anxiety and Nausea

I experience actual nausea whenever I hear a certain song.

lonely man avoids a crowd of people

Panic Attacks

I am scared to attend any social events.

crowded naked casual sex orgy

Sex vs. Romance?

I am more interested in the sex than the romance.

angry man in bed with back to woman on computer no sex

Sexless

My fiance was raped and now hates sex.

proud independent boy in superhero costume

Independent Children

How to raise your child to be independent - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch.

woman pulling out her hair

Compulsions

My compulsive hair pulling is ruining my social life.

airplane being struck by lightning

Panic Attacks

After a bad air flight, I have continued panic attacks about everything.

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Disciplining the Mentally Handicapped

My mentally delayed temper tantrumed daughter wants me to pay for an apartment.

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Your Core Ideas

What role do your deepest ideas play in how happy you are? A short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach.

angry boy with clenched teeth making fists

Super Brat

My little brother flip flops between being bratty and kind.

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Custody Issue

Grandma wants to let her son raise his own kids despite count ruling.

Nervous man in formal wear looking at boss writing on clipboard during job review

Job Loss

Losing my job has destroyed my personality.

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Learning From Experience

A great way to learn: experience - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

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Anticipating Death

I am terrified about my husband's illness.

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Mysterious Break-Up

My ex won't tell me why she broke up with me.

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Independence

How can I tell my aunt to stop being a busybody?

happy people dancing at club party

Infidelity

What is an "affair" and why are they so tempting? A short interview with Dr. Tiffany Kisler.

sad girl walking alone

Over-Parenting

My wonderful daughter suddenly left home.

sad man and woman together thinking

Divorced vs Un-divorce?

Should I get back together with an ex whom I worship?

puzzled exasperated upset man grasping head

Concentration

I continuously lose things and my mind drifts.

Proud successful businessman and woman holding thumbs up

Selfishness vs. Sacrifice

Rational selfishness or blind sacrifice - which one leads to happiness? A short interview with activist Lin Zinser.

stressed woman holding head with pained look

Stress

My stress is starting to effect me physically.

Doubtful unsure puzzled woman holding pills

Depression Meds

What can I do to get off my depression medication?

unsure confused suspicious puzzled youmg man scratches head

Dealing With Doubt

How should I deal with small nagging doubts I have about my girlfriend?

cheering fans in sports stadium

The Value of Sports

Why do we value sports so much?

smiling child and single mother playing

Dating While Parenting

How old should my son be before I start dating again?

a woman with scrunched up face and a puzzled man

Am I Nasty?

I get nasty with people without realizing it.

a woman in white bed happy dreaming with smile on face

Eroticism

What does it mean that my wife has erotic dreams?

child creatively building toy machines with toy gears and metal pieces

Forced Sharing

1-How to say no to a child 2- Forced sharing - a short interview with Teacher/Author Charlotte Cushman.

woman avoiding man's advances at movies

Sensuality

Is my zero interest in sensuality normal?

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Selfishness

Isn't it selfish to follow your advice about assertive communication?

lonely bored mother with baby child

No Friends

1-I'm a stay at home mom with no friends. 2-Should men talk with other men about their emotions?

woman client with therapist

Cognitive Therapy

What is Cognitive Therapy - A short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach.

man waits anxiously by a cell phone

Friendship

I'm anxious because I think my friend is avoiding me.

woman in office indicating stop leave me alone

Communication Errors

I come across as selfish and insensitive.

Man falling asleep while reading

Anxiety and Guilt

My parents don't know that I quit college.

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Life Balance

Finding a balance between work, romance, and all parts of your life - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

Man stopped for drunk driving

Responsibility

Should I stay with a boyfriend whose adult son is out of control?

Man looking at pills spread on table

Anxiety

I want to get off my anxiety meds but I am afraid to.

Woman turning her back on happy people

Happiness

Why don't I want or try to be happy?

man motivated by prize

Motivation

How to stay motivated in sports and in life - a short interview with Dr. Judy VanRaalte

Man angry and losing temper and holding a woman's arms

Communication When Angry

Help! I'm always losing my temper with my wife.

man at computer thinking about what he read

ADHD

How accurate is an internet test I took that says I have AHHD?

depressed sad lonely woman

Loneliness

I'm lonely since I moved to a new area, even though I don't miss my friends.

parents reading to young son

Child Management

Three simple child management skills - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch

controling woman nags man

Controlling Wife

My wife tries to get me angry by pushing my buttons.

crazy man inserting forks with wires in both ears

Paranoia

I can't cope with my boyfriends psycholigical issues.

woman  turns head away from man who attempts a kiss

Sex as a Sacrifice

I can't get romantic with men I care about.

man public speaking at microphone

Intellectual Confidence

How to engage in effective intellectual activism.

sad elder abused senior grandmother with fingers pointing accusingly at her

Independence from Kids

My adult kids abuse me.

obese woman sitting on bench

Overweight

My marriage is not working due to my weight gain.

sad child girl on phone

Insecurity

This bright 13 year old crys a lot and has many phobias.

happy father teaching happy son how to hold a baseball bat

Kids Sports

Tips for helping your kids (and yourself) enjoy sports and learn life skills - a short interview with Dr. Judy Vanraalte.

young girl with blank expression

My Indifferent Mom

Is my empty feeling due to not bonding with my mom?

Sad older man looking lonely and distant

My Increasing Dementia

How can I enjoy my remaining short life?

Businessman at desk working hard and alone

Mysterious Coworker

Should I worry about a co-worker who never talks about their outside life?

young woman holding head having bad thoughts

Thinking Mistakes

How to deal with any overpowering lousy thoughts you might have - a short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach

woman worried about her health

Fear of Dying

For two years I have had many thoughts about dying.

man with emotionless stare into distance

Self-Paralysis

I have numbed myself to all emotions due to family tragedies.

building in ruins after war

Reparations

My friends judge me by bad things my ancestors did.

Father reading with his young son

Mental Self Control

How to control your mind so you can reach your parenting goals - A short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney.

Man in bed undecided while looking at woman wearing sleep mask

Unattractive

I deeply love a woman whom I find very unattractive.

books on shelf

Finding Happiness

Where can I go to learn how to find genuine happiness?

sad old woman looking at photo of deceased husband

Grief

My aging friend lost her first and only love.

-TODAY'S Episode

TODAY'S EPISODE of The Rational Basis (r) of Happines‪s

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Communication With Children

How to better understand and enjoy your child - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch.

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Self-Help

Why do you (Dr. Kenner) tell us to analyze our own thoughts and feelings so much?

unhappy lonely angry woman smoking and thinking

Self-Control

I yell at my kids unless I smoke.

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Setting Limits

My 12 year old daughter was invited to a birthday party featuring bathing suit oil wrestling.

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Self Confidence

How can I regain my self confidence after my deeply romantic partner hurt me so deeply?

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Judging Others

The consequences of refusing to judge others - a short interview with Dr. Tara Smith.

Angry woman yells at clueless man

OCD and Bi-Polar

I'm ruining my prefect romantice relationship due to my OCD and Bi-Polar emotional outbursts.

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Depression

What is the best type of therapy for depression?

Two girl friends angry after quarrel

Judging Character

How can I choose between my two friends who hate each other?

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Violence

How to respond to a threat of violence - a short interview with Dr. James Campbell.

Old woman praying with bible

Communication With Mother

How can I best communicate with my 90 year old mother who talks continuously and exclusively about her fringe religion?

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Intimacy vs Health

Senior couple wants intimacy but can't due to health.

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Grief

Is evasion of an issue always bad?

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Mom vs. Stepmom

My ex’s new wife wants custody of my kids! (Starts at 6 minutes 10 seconds)

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Independence

Physical vs. intellectual independence; both are necessary for happiness.

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Parenting

I must have a baby if I am to be happy. (begins at 8 minutes 2 seconds)

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Loneliness

I’ve never had a romantic relationship.

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Rational Happiness

What happiness is and is not (begins at 5 minutes 00 seconds)

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Character

How can I tell if I am being used? (begins at 5 minutes 23 seconds)

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Justice

I get angry at rude disrespectful co-workers whom do not appreciate my hard work. (Begins at 5minutes 13 seconds)

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Courage

The psychological benefit of building courage and integrity by speaking up for your values - a short interview with seminar presenter Lin Zinser

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Selfishness

Why do you (Dr.Kenner) claim love is selfish?

Older crazy woman angry at puzzled clueless man

Senility

My elderly mom is losing it.

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Unearned Guilt

Unearned Guilt-How to crush a man’s soul. (begins at 5 minutes 10 seconds)

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Suicide

Are there pros and cons to suicide? (starts 7 minutes 22 seconds in)

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Anti-Social

I no longer enjoy being with people. (begins 4minutes 33seconds in)

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Independence

Loss of independence as you age (begins 7minutes 47seconds in)

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Body Image

Are you ashamed of your body shape? (begins 7minutes 53seconds in)

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-Romance Guidebook

Free Download of Chapter One

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Happiness - Obstacles to

What gets in the way of happiness? (starts at 4minutes 40seconds)

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Dealing with Failure

Don't let setbacks or failures lower your future goals - a short interview with Dr. Judy Vanraalte.

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Unearned Guilt

My brother abuses my parents

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Divorce

How can I decide if I should stay with my wife of many years?

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Silent Treatment

My boyfriend deals with issues by using the silent treatment.

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Equality in Romance

Romantic Equality (begins at 4 minutes 30 seconds)

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Infidelity

Evading the evidence that a spouse is unfaithful (begins exactly at 8 minutes)

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Pornography (2 of 2)

Porn as a substitute for intimacy (begins at 7 minutes 20 seconds)

Upset angry frustrated mother with hands on head among mischievous little girls

Child Discipline

What are some techniques for proper child discipline (part 2 of 2) - a short interview with Teacher/Author Charlotte Cushman.

Abusive man about to slap a cowering woman on the head

Anger at Girlfriend

Help me stop hurting my girlfriend when I get angry

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Evaluating risk

I experience fear and anxiety from reading my medication warnings.

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Self Doubt

My mind constantly races with thoughts of self doubt

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Problem Solving

The two most commmon roadblocks to problem solving; overload and doubt - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney

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Moods

What can I do about my PTSD and being bipolar?

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Fantasy

My friend can't tell the difference between dreams and reality

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Dating

1-Is it ok to ask my boyfriend to move to my state? 2-Is there a problem if I make more money than my boyfriend?

Old woman smiling and looking out window

Elder Care Issues

My mom is getting too psychologically dependent on me.

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Cognitive Therapy

What a first session of cognitive therapy is like - a short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach.

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Casual Sex

Is true love compatable with casual sex?

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Evasion

God will forgive my husband for a murder he committed.

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Anxiety with People

Is my constant avoiding of people social anxiety?

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Stinking Thinking

Dealing with those depressing negative thoughts that keep you so unhappy - a short interview with Dr. Judy Beck.

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Indepencence

The importance of encouraging your child's independence - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch

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Money and Romance

My boyfriend refuses to discuss his spendthrift ways

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Communication With Co-Workers

I am too aggressive with my co-workers

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Kids vs. Romance

I have to choose between my kids and my girlfriend.

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Forgiving Infidelity

If, when, and how to forgive or apologize when a partner has been unfaithful - a short interview with Dr. Tara Smith

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Independence

My religious parents try too hard to push it on me.

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Mysterious Emotions

Why am I angry and cry all the time?

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Fantasy

My boyfriend fantasizes about other women.

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What Women Want

I wish guys knew what we want in a relationship.

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violence

Warning signs of potential workplace violence. A short interview with Dr. James Campbell

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Independence

My girlfriend thinks I should constantly be giving her money.

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Trust

I don't trust my girlfriend who is starting college

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Anxiety about Unpleasantness

How to cope with unpleasant issues

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Self Esteem

How to gain control over how you feel about yourself

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Addiction, compulsion, habit

Why do I feel compelled to tell others about my porn addiction in graphic detail?

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Parenting

Three simple child management skills - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch.

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ADHD

Does my son have ADHD?

Man can't sleep infidelity guilt

Bad Choices

Your mental health can't escape your lies.

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Anger at Mom

Why do I feel so angry at my invalid mom?

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After Combat, What Next?

What a soldier experiences after returning home from war - a short interview with Adjustment Counselor Jay White.

Parenting a bisexual boy

Bisexuality

I am devastated because my son just told me he is bisexual.

Wife complaining to husband

Confidence

Dealing with people who love to complain - a short interview with Dr. Andy Bernstein.

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Anger at Kids

How can I control my unjustified anger against my kids?

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Sex Therapy

Some myths about sex therapy - a short interview with Dr. Barry McCarthy.

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Emotions

My friend has a fear of expressing emotion.

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Family

My boyfriend won't let me see my family.

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Lazy Husband

My husband does not help around the house.

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Violence

Warning signs of a potentially violent co-worker - A short interview with Dr. James Campbell

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Sexuality

Sexual problems couples face - A short interview with Dr. Barry McCarthy

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Crying

Why did I cry uncontrollably after my heated verbal fight with a coworker?

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Anger - Causeless

I hate people and want everyone to die.

Angry woman sitting next to unfaithful husband

Anger at Infidelity

I can't get past my anger at my husband for being unfaithful.

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Loss of a Pet

I am tortured with the knowledge that my dog will soon die.

Frustrated man can't convince a resistive woman

Criticism

How can I tactfully make suggestions to a sister who makes horrible life style decisions?

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The First Session

What a first session of cognitive therapy is like - a short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach.

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Justice

My fiancé won't stop his toxic daughter from ruining my desire to marry him.

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Blind Dates

How to get the most out of a blind date - a short interview with Dr. Don Kieffer.

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Parenting

How can I stop my 3 year old from having temper tantrums?

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Independence

I am pre-occupied with what others think of me.

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Dating

I have a hard time approaching women.

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Over-Parenting

My parents are controlling psychos.

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Failure

How can failure contribute to happiness - A short interview with Dr. Eric Daniels.

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Unwanted Thoughts

My young son was disturbed by a movie sex scene.

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Emotions

How can I deal with the emotions from my separation from my husband?

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Justice

Why some people don't want you to pass judgment on others - a short interview with Dr. Andy Bernstein

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Career Choice

Some tips on how to decide between several careers.

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Communication With Wife

How can I tell my wife that her son has taboo fantasies?

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Bad Boss

My boss likes to be boot licked and worshiped.

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Conflicting Values

I love two men.

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Activism

How to take the first steps to become active for your favorite cause. A short interview with activist Lin Zinser

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Reconciliation

Should I remarry an ex husband who wants to reconcile?

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Phobias

I get anxious when I have to talk to new people.

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Sadness

How do I shake my feeling so blue?

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Communication With Boyfriend

Was I right to slap my boyfriend?

angry teen boy with arms folded with parents

Bad Child?

Sometimes a child’s bad behavior is a cry for help. (begins 6 minutes 00 seconds in)

young man tries to explain to older woman who ignores him

Dating

I'm dating an older woman and there is a lot of friction.

man sleeping with pile of pills next to him

Divorce

Should I stay with my druggy lying partner?

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Child Discipline

What are some techniques for proper discipline? (part 1 of 2) - a short interview with Teacher/Author Charlotte Cushman.

angry man points threatingly at innocent puzzled woman

Abuse by Boyfriend

My boyfriend hits, chokes, and insults me.

confused suspicious sad man scratching his head

Trust

I no longer trust anyone since my wife cheated with my best friend.

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Parenting

How can I improve my relationship with my young daughter when my nasty ex won't say no to her?

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Justice

Which is more important in dispensing justice - rewards or punishments? - a short interview with Dr. Tara Smith.

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Good looks

My girlfriend is perfect but I dislike her looks.

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Bad News

How can I tell my young daughter that her dad died?

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Why do I Hate

I don't know why I hate my husband and want to leave him.

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Discipline

To spank or spoil - a new perspective on parenting - a short interview with parenting coach Cornelia Lockitch.

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Fear

All day, alI I can think about is my death

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Anger at Lies

I am so angry about my wife's pre-marriage lies concerning her health

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grief

How to regain happiness after loss of son, husband, and health.

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happiness

Does happiness depend on what your deepest beliefs are? - A short interview with Dr. Jeff Riggenbach

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sacrifice

How can I avoid my old habit of being a doormat for others?

boy has painful look as man pinches his ear

Abuse by Father

Should I turn my son in to child protective services?

Angry snarling man points finger threateningly at viewer

Anger Pretending

I am an actor and need to understand how to act angry.

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Veterans Issues

How to understand and help with the issues faced by returning vets. - A short interview with adjustment counselor Jay White.

Man shrugging cant decide

independence

My psychologist constantly gives me mixed advice.

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depression

1-Art can boost or crush your spirit. 2-What can I do to regain the happiness of my youth?

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Emotional Repression

My now emotionally repressed husband blames himself for my being raped.

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Happiness requires . . .

Does happiness require self-sacrifice, or moral ambitiousness?

Shy man and woman sitting together on a couch

Dating

How can I ask out a girl whom I know has a boyfriend. (Begins at 3 minutes 58 seconds)

Couple dancing at a club

Dating

Some ways to meet potential dates - a short interview with Dr. Don Kieffer.

Woman showing two different moods

Personality Disorders

I feel like I am two different people - a young girl, and a psychopath man.

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Young Romance

My kid and step kid seem to be romantically curious.

Jealous man watches girlfriend who flirts with another man

Jealousy

I have become a mean jealous angry person.

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Learning From Mistakes

Experience as a great source for learning - a short interview with seminar presenter Jean Moroney

girl sticks fingers in ears while mom yells

Anxiety when Arguing

Why do I overreact when mom and I argue?

man crosses fingers behind his own back

Honesty

Help me stop lying to my wife about my innocent self-pleasuring.

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Communication With Daughter

No one knows why my boyfriend's daughter gives me the cold shoulder.

soldier crying in psychologist's office

Veterans

Issues facing our returning vets - a short interview with adjustment counselor Jay White

Alcoholic woman trying to be happy

Happiness

1-What happiness is and is not. 2-Why am I not happy unless I drink?

man reading with wide eyes glued to open book

Pornography (1 of 2)

Porn as a substitute for intimacy

happy woman kissed by two angry men

Infidelity

What should I due since my wife was unfaithful?

happy senior couple in love

Intimacy

Setting realistic expectations for what a healthy sexual relationship is like - a short interview with Dr. Barry McCarthy

woman avoids husband's kiss with look of revulsion

Divorce

How do I tell my husband that I no longer love him?

nervous woman with microphone

Anxiety Performance Anxiety

I am a singer with a dull stage presence.

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Integrity

How can I make up for reading my friend's diary?

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Intellectual Activism

How to take the first steps in defending your ideas - a short interview with activist Lin Zinser

man crying wiping eyes with handkerchief

Crying

Why do I cry uncontrollably when I argue with my parents?

heartbroken man with head in hands as woman walks away

Romance

I am desperately in love with a woman who broke up with me.

sad scared woman sitting alone with group of friends sitting at different table

Self Conscious

I am uncomfortable in groups of more than one or two people.

victorious athlete ecstatic at finish line

Sports

Why do we value sports so much? - a short interview with Dr. Judy VanRaalte

shy happy couple on a date

Dating

The wonderful value of experiencing romance, even if your partner decides to end it.

divorced couple fighting over custody of young child

Child Custody Victims

How can I minimize the bad effects on my child of my ex getting part custody?

woman consoling sad guilty man

Divorce

Should I leave a partner whose self guilt is ruining our relationship?

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Psychological Trauma

Psychological first aid in cases of trauma - a short interview with Dr. James Campbell

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